Kudos to John for opening up about his sexuality on our latest episode of WHO GIVES A FUCK?!
Just kidding. It can’t be easy to dip your toe into a sea of judgment by sharing something extremely personal about your life. And John didn’t just dip a toe, he went full-send belly-flop from a 50’ cliff!
John’s topic ran the gambit (what a fucking weird word “gambit”) on all things sexual relationships. For Kevin and me, who apparently have pretty traditional marriages, many of the subjects were intriguing or downright jaw-dropping. The fact that at one time, some states deemed that the age of consent to be 7 years old springs to mind. Some states didn’t even bother to come up with an age. I’m a firm believer in live and let live and whatever 2 (or more) consenting adults agree is healthy for them is none of my business. And I am very happy that adults have come up with creative, open and honest ways of enjoying their sexuality. I think as people, we all want to please our mates and if every once in a while, you want to explore others (with permission) then so be it. Sexual partnerships is a fascinating topic because we all have an opinion and want reassurance that our choices and orientations are valid.
My big takeaways were what is right for one may not be right for another and that honesty is the foundation of any healthy relationship especially if every once in a while guidelines are changed. It’s like the sexual constitution and you better be sure that your amendment gets ratified before it is used.
John and his partner seem to be on the same page when it comes to polyamorous relationships and I salute both of them. And I thank John for being vulnerable enough to share a perspective that could easily be ridiculed or dismissed.
In John’s case you can have your cake and eat it too. I just hope he doesn’t get diabetes. Or Chlamydia.
- Greg Mitchell